• Personal Development

    Can charisma be learned?

    Once, a friend wanted to introduce me to an extremely socially awkward friend of hers. Because she thought we were both awkward and maybe we would click and be awkward together. Needless to say, I wasn’t a poster child for charisma. Yet, in the past few months, things are changing. I can walk into a room, and instantly, people notice and want to meet me. People tell me I’m beautiful and amazing and can’t understand how I got to be this way. In some cases, I’m wearing the exact same clothes and hairstyle as I was before – yet getting more positive attention now. I get more introductions and more…

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    How to maintain motivation, systematize your efforts, and overcome mental barriers

    There are 3 aspects of achieving a goal: Motivation (desire to actually accomplish it) Creating a SYSTEM for action (knowing what you will actually DO) Letting go of FEARS that hold you back Over the past few years, I’ve developed my own internal system and process for maintaining motivation, systematizing my efforts, and overcoming mental barriers, which I’ve outlined below. This was the general process I went through when I: dropped out of law school despite countless people urging me not to – and landed a dream job 2 weeks later took up muay thai kickboxing with no martial arts background left a cult-like church of 10 years improved my…

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    10 Lies About Life, Careers, and Social Skills

    Today I am going to deconstruct some career, life, and social skills lies I was told growing up. LIE #1: With age comes wisdom. No, with age comes… age. If you keep doing the same stupid things year after year, you’re not getting wiser. You only get to be wiser if you actually learn from, think about, and reflect on your experiences – and apply it. LIE #2: Your major matters. Today, your college education matters less and less than it did before. What REALLY matters is your ability to think for yourself, solve problems, learn on the fly, and seek help. LIE #3: People only like you if you’re…

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    How working on my charisma improved my dating, attractiveness, social life, and presence at work

    The PR executive wanted me fired from the project. “She’s too junior!” she told my director. “She needs to grow a backbone.” “No, JLowe is good,” my director pushed back. My director was completely confident in my skills. Me? I was stunned. All my life, I thought I was a top performer. Straight A’s, aced my way through UC Berkeley, and landed a cool job working with an even cooler mentor/director during a time when none of my peers was finding good work. But all of a sudden, two years out of college, and an executive wanted me off a project. “What can I do to improve?” I asked my…

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