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    We have a fucked up idea of what confidence is about

    In our culture, we have a fucked up idea of what confidence is about. We think that confidence means being strong and vulnerability means being weak. We think that for a leader to show confidence, they’ve got to be stoic and have no emotions, reveal nothing personal, and share no weaknesses. When I first started attending professional development/networking meet-ups, this is what I tried to project. But I struggled to build warm connections instantly. Months after the fact, I finally learned why: Yes, I came across as cool – but too cool for you. Aloof. Even intimidating. That was because internally, I felt afraid and defended/walled-up. Since I was a kid, I had become convinced at a deep level…

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